10 Signs of Authentic Happiness Authentic Love


My dear Thinette

What are the 10 Signs of Authentic Happiness Authentic Love?  You will know what the wonderful feeling of happiness is, when it is real. It very seldom just happens, my dear. Sometimes it is a process, my dear.

It is a special bond and has a way to grow slowly and over time. Physical attraction happens in the blink of an eye, but can fade very quickly. Everlasting love does not happen in an instant or overnight, it takes time.

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Know your Man

The first step is to know what the man’s values are, his character and vision. Know if they are the same as yours. In contrast, it is not all about physical attraction alone, my dear.

This insight can only be obtained over a period of time with natural behaviour. You have to be sure what you are looking for in a man. Which behaviours are important to you, therefore not negotiable.


Happiness and Love

It is hard to describe the feelings of joy and happiness when a man is honest and sincere with you. Who doesn’t want to have the happy cherished feeling of being loved by someone? Someone who truly loves you for who you are?  The warmth that melts your heart when you hear his voice or the touch of his hand.


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Trusting him comes after he has earned your respect. Therefore, make sure his actions follow his words, my dear, it is so important.

What do Happiness and Love mean to you? How would you describe authentic happiness and authentic love? Do you think you have found it yet?

When you experience it, first of all, you will look to the world differently and your whole perspective change. With it, you will always have a song in your heart and stars in your eyes.


Authentic Happiness Authentic Love A man and a woman lying next to each other holding hands rubbing noses, deeply in love.


Signs of Authentic Happiness and Authentic Love

It is true for men as well as women.

  •  You are so proud of him, who he is, what he does and his behaviour.

  •  If you feel excited and overjoy when you see his name appear on your phone.

  •  Your heart skips a beat when you hear his voice.

  •  You can not keep your eyes off him.

  •  He is on your mind day and night.

  •  His happiness comes first. Everything you do is with him on your mind first.

  •  Being more open and share more intimate things with him, and in addition, he will do the same. Earning each others trust is primary.

  • Feel safe and secure with him, and most of all you will trust him with your life.

  •  You have to have that warm happy feeling when around him and want to be with him all the time.

  • Respect, Appreciate, Adore and Desire him.

When all of these points cannot be marked, my dear, Mr Right has not arrived yet.

It will cause lots of sadness and trouble if you pursue a relationship that is not meant to be.

Discuss and make sure of the fact, that a long term commitment, is what you both want. If not, do not get serious it will cause much sadness and is not worthwhile pursuing.

Relax, just enjoy the company if you want, until you meet the right guy, and it is time to move on.

You will never have happiness if you try to change someone or force a relationship. It has to happen naturally. Leave that for-ever-space in your heart empty for The Special One.

Meeting Him

Timing has a lot to do with finding the right one. My belief is, you have to meet the dreams and goals you have set yourself, when you were younger, first

You will not be ready for the true meaningful commitment, if you have not achieved those goals yet. The same applies for him too.

Authentic Happiness Authentic Love. Modern knight in armour, crouching on one leg.

Your Knight in shining Armour will come looking for you when he has achieved his goals and are ready to commit. He will get serious when there are no loose ends hanging around.

It will be an unexpected, exciting moment of surprise when you met.


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Getting Ready

  1. Have short term goals, knowing where you want to be or what you want to achieve before you settle down. Maybe you want to go backpacking through Europe or do an Ocean swimming marathon before you commit forever.

  2. Start working towards it my darling. The sooner you met that goal the sooner you will be ready, not a moment before.

  3. Having goals and achieving it, most certainly early in your life, is the only way to have personal growth. You have to reach a certain level of maturity to have meaningful relationships.

  4. Only experience can make it happen before you will be able to “live happily ever after”. Don’t sit back wasting your time and stay a child forever. Put your head down, get busy and grow as a individual, my dear.

  5. Having met your Prince, you might want to impress him by looking your best as you think. As a matter of fact, most men would like you to be your natural self. Be natural, be just as you are, he prefers less makeup, no layers and layers of foundation, artificial nails, eyelashes or hair extensions.

  6. Running his fingers through your hair, kissing you without getting blemishes and not risking any injury when you touch him, is what he desires. Keep it simple and leave all those extras for your girl’s night out.

  7. Never be too serious, always be playful and fun to be around, learn to play the flirting game. The way you make him feel when you are around is very important, my dear, it is the deciding factor for him. Make it lighthearted and fun with lots of laughter.

  8. Making him feel loved and special will trigger the switch in his brain and he cannot live without you. Giving him the respect he deserves and telling him, is an important cornerstone to a happy unique relationship.

  9. If you are sure he is the man for you, only then you utter these words that will make him realise you are the one for him too. Tell him how much you Love and Respect him. How much you Appreciate him for the person he is and how much you Adore him.

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  11. Put your arms around him, look him in the eye, tell him and seal it with a kiss. Only do this to your very special man and not to every Tom, Dick and Harry.

This is very serious and important, mean what you say and know the reasons why. Never say it, just for the sake of saying.


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How to Keep His Attention and Devotion

Romance and Obsession are the way a woman love, and Fun and Sex are the way a man love. Give a man what he desires and you will have a faithful man, not interested in other women.

Remember, he will still look and enjoy other beautiful women. Authentic Happiness Authentic Love. A man with sunglasses looking over the rim to a passing woman.Enjoy watching her with him, commenting on how beautiful her body or legs are.

He will be open with you and, not hiding anything. Be that special woman he has chosen to love and have fun with. Soon you will earn his trust and be The One. He will share everything with and will become obsessed with you.


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Game of Love

• The first thing, or maybe, the second thing a man notices about you, is your smile. A contagious smile and laugh, attract a man. He realises you are a person who is happy and easy to please.  Smile and laugh often.


 Authentic Happiness Authentic Love Woman laughing from her heart.

His main aim in life is to make you happy and do things you will approve. You won’t believe, how insecure men feel around a grumpy moaning woman. He won’t stay long, because she is hard to please.

• Awaken his emotions. Tune-up the intensity of emotions a man experience in your presence. Create sexual drama with compassion and empathy. The higher the intimate intensity, the more his mind will demand him to claim you.

•  Never be too available, you have to stay a challenge all your life.

•  A man needs to struggle a little before he can claim what he wants.

Stay a challenge and make him work hard for you, at the same time, make the rewards worthwhile.

Make promises he can’t resist but then play the delaying tactic. “I will do anything you want me to do tonight, but you first have to help me fold the washing and wash the dishes”.

Be flirtatious with him throughout your relationship and married life.

Authentic Happiness Authentic Love. Flirtatious little cupid devil winking.

Men love the challenge of game playing for his attention and love. Don’t fall in his lap like an over ripe apple. Be elusive and mysterious my darling. Surprise him, best of all, be his own lap-dancer at home.


Subtle ways of Seduction

Charming a man is 100% mental, it works both ways, but that is only half the pleasure, once that has happened you venture into the creative side of fun. Become a revelation, be enthusiastic,  pour all your vigour and vitality into moments and nights of pleasure.

He has to know you are his lover. Beneath that everyday woman, there is a passionate tiger waiting to let loose, only he can arouse that animal in you.


 Authentic Happiness Authentic Love Woman in a provocative pose, arm above her head and bent legs with pointed toes.


Take care not to become mediocre and predictable.

Choose your battlefield well, where and when. Will it be in the kitchen, under the stars, a bar, with candlelight, by the pool, in public, in the car or rather, the bedroom. The options are endless.


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Tools of Seduction

Being confident is the best tool of all and always the winner.

• Show a little and hide a little. There is a certain way to dress that drives a man crazy, but never too slutty or revealing. Steer clear of the obvious, dresses too revealing or shorts too short. You know what you have, but, on the other hand, it is for him to find out. When you are his woman and in a committed relationship, he will not want you to advertise out loud what are your assets.

• The power of scent. Men love a good smelling woman and can get amorous because of pheromones in perfume.


 Authentic Happiness Authentic Love Bottle of perfume

Enhance the moment by using aromatic oils, giving him a body massage e.g. choose between sandalwood, ylang-ylang, jasmine, patchouli mixed with a carrier oil like coconut oil. It is known for its aphrodisiac properties. Make perfume a recognizable part of you.

• Be super CONFIDENT. Have the confidence of a supermodel no matter your size or weight.

 Authentic Happiness Authentic Love A plump young woman posing with confidence.

Take the lead when seducing him in the bedroom, forget about being shy, give him the lap dance of his life and enjoy it as much as he does. Become a Cleopatra and show him who is in control. Men love it when you instigate sex and take charge.

• A woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get is a huge turn on. Never overdo it, it might be arrogant, always have that shy playful element around.

• Renew yourself. Don’t stay the boring same all the time. Change your clothes, lose weight, cut your hair, get a total makeover. Stay fresh, change your persona frequently being happy, inquisitive, sporty and find new interests.

• Magic of anticipation. Excitement and tension can be a huge turn-on for men. Make him earn his time with you. Delay gratification, take two steps ahead and one step back.

Create a strong feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction, which can only be solved by having you. Give him flirtatious attention and then withdraw and ignore him for a minute or two. Keeping busy with something else and then get back to him, in other words, contradict yourself, play hot and cold in a loving seductive way.


 Authentic Happiness Authentic Love A young woman in a seductive dancing pose, hands behind her head and on leg slightly in front of the other.


• The power of exotic dancing. Learn to slow dance all by yourself with snake-like moves. Arms up high and slowly bring them down one sliding down the other and then stroke your body all over as you turn around and move your hips. Do it to the rhythm of a song without looking at him, giving him the feeling of a peeping Tom.

This can also be done when you slowly get rid of your clothes. You will make his day or rather night if you can lose your inhibitions and enjoy the moment in confidence. His eyes will most probably, only be on the midsection of your body, the rest is not that important, no matter your age.

• Some items to enhance the moment will bring an interesting edge to the occasion like killer lingerie, blindfolds, long strings of pearls, silky scarves, feathers, toys and bracelets


Authentic Happiness Authentic Love. Ostrich feather.

… using them seductively and naughty.

Authentic Happiness Authentic Love. Long string of pearls to use in seduction


Forget what society says and create a world of your own, remember there is no taboo if it is consensual.

Send him flirty naughty text messages even if he is in the room next door.  Your phone can be a  great partner in crime to seduce him.

Have initiative, passion, enthusiasm and be creative, make him feel you are a different woman every time. Change your look, technique and scenery.


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On a more serious note

Everybody has a conscious mind and an unconscious mind. Emotions and feelings are determined by your subconscious mind which in return is the keeper of your happiness.

Remember your behaviour and your thoughts feed your unconscious mind and that mirrors your mood and your feelings. If you feed your man good words and good vibrations it will have an influence on his behaviour and feelings towards you.

Make him feel good and special around you and for this reason he will get addicted to you. There are three words that should spell out your feelings towards him.

No, my dear, it is not ” I love you ” it is indeed,  RESPECT, APPRECIATION and ADORATION.

You only say it to the man who deserves it and you are serious with … don’t mess with this my dear, because, this will make a man addicted to you.

Tell him you Respect him, Appreciate him and most of all Adore and Desire him, in that order and say why.

Here are a few examples

• Respect him for being such a hard worker, working long hours for your future, and most noteworthy,  the way he treats his parents. This is what every man crave. [choose your own reasons]

• Appreciate him for being a loving faithful, and best of all, an honest partner. [choose your reasons]

• Adore him for being the best partner and lover anyone can ever have, most of all, you can’t live without him.  [choose your own reasons]

Desire him and only him. Tell him how much you want him and want feel his arms around you, holding you tight.

Repeat this almost every day, finding new things to honour him. It will make him very happy, and best of all, you will appreciate him more. No matter how old you are or how long you have been together, as long as you mean every word.

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No Age Restriction

Never think it only happens when you are young my dear, it gets even better as you get older.


 Authentic Happiness Authentic Love. A Mature couple, looking deep into each others eyes, still in love.


When a committed relationship fails, it most probably is because one or more of these cornerstones, Respect, Appreciation, Adoration and Desire are missing. They are most probably not honoured.

A woman has to have a desire for intimacy and, most of all, admit the fact that she is enjoying it too. When you see how he adores, admires and desires you it will change something in you. Show him your adoration, admiration and desire he will be ecstatic and make you his Queen.


Not all men are the same, as a matter of fact, you will have to find the way to your man’s heart your own way, consequently and he will find his way to conquer yours.

Unique Happiness and Love with Granny

The joy of true love is the feeling of authentic happiness and authentic love. There is nothing better in life than to be with him and share your life with him. Find the signs of true love and, cherish it, my dear.

Love you lots

Gran Stella

Inspire Motivate And Empower The Next Generation

30 Comments on “10 Signs of Authentic Happiness Authentic Love”

  1. Hello Stella!!
    I have just become a big of yours. You write amazing articles always. This is a great topoc you have choosen to write. Love is the most valuable thing for one’s life to carry on everything till death. Love makes life great and also inspires to do something great. it gives power. You have written something that touches the heart. The 10 signs of love are the most amazing feelings you have said. especially when the name of the person is heard, it really tingles all over the body, heartbeat skips with his voice. Amazing feelings these are.
    You have written the soul feelings and have spoken the words from the heart. Keep it up and best wishes to you with your loved one.

    1. Thank you Khobayer! I feel very honoured.

      I will describe love as the most important thing that makes everything else fall into place, giving balance in your life.

      It makes all the ruff and sharp edges of life round and full in an otherwise flat and monotone existence.

      People should come back and realize the importance of the basic core essentials of life, and leave behind the false fake glitter and image they chase.

      Thank you again for a very inspiring comment, I appreciate it very much.

  2. Gran Stella, this website is the bomb! Believe me when I say I’ve never seen a  PG topic handled better, and I’ve seen a few! Did your grandkids provide your inspiration? Or do just know naturally what will fire the imagination of a young (and not-so-young) audience? Whatever your answer, I think you’ve done a very good job with this message. II agree that it’s what everyone is seeking for; I’ll gladly recommend it for all my teens, tweens, and just about everyone!

    1. My granddaughter was my inspiration to start this Lorna, I could see all the mistakes she is making through ignorance. I would love for her to have the knowledge of life of yesteryear as reference when she needs it … I might not be around to tell her all.

      I had the most wonderful parents any kid could have, who taught me most of this. They were a great example in it all and are my other inspiration, I don’t want their legacy to be forgotten.

      You can see there is no monetizing yet, it will come it time, but that is not my motivation. My parents and my granddaughter are my inspiration.
      I only have one granddaughter and the letter addressed to my grandson, I wrote to all my grandsons of the world. Forgive me but I had to let them know the ways a woman think and why for their future happiness.
      It all started with an e-book, but it never seen the light it is still a draft and the idea of the letters were born. I hope everybody reading this will find something new, inspiring them to inject new life into their relationships.
      Thank you for your kind words and very motivating comment. I appreciate it tremendously.

  3. Hello, Stella! You are wonderful! Your article is full of positivity and kindness. I especially love the part when you said that we have to feed our man with good words and action, and influence them with good behavior. This in my own experience is true. Somehow, partners influence each other as they do things together or by just simply spending quality time or hanging out together. To continue a blissful life, we must be a radiate positivity and affection. Bringing out the best of each other makes a good relationship. Thank you for sharing the signs of true love. Your grand daughter is indeed very lucky to have you. 

    1. There are so many misunderstandings from both sides, and the control they want to have over each other.
      A sure recipe for failure, So glad you found the secret to be happy.
      True what you say to be positive, affectionate and I would add fun to be with.
      The more values and interests you share the better will the partnership be.
      Thank you for a great comment.

  4. Great article. I will share this with my Fiance LOL

    As a man I think all that advice was right on. People are all different!
    It is a shame when people struggle to create a relationship when it should just grow naturally. I spent a long time in a marriage and finally the fact that my wife didn’t really like me and I was the same guy after 30 years,m she left.

    1. Hi Dennis thank you for sharing I appreciate it!

      Yes it is true, this was only a broad guideline, each couple will find their own bliz.
      I am glad you approve. So many people just could not care to make it happen, I know. I am interested in relationships from childhood and was always on the lookout of tell tale signs, I still do.
      Hope you and your loved one will have a very special day of connection.

  5. Your letters make me wish had children and grandchildren. Was not blessed in that category.

    Can not imagine either of my grandmothers caring so much to write letters like you have. The feelings of love flow with the wisdom of experience and freedom that only comes with experience. I am sure there are other men reading this becoming jealous of your husband.

    Would love to see the expression on your grandaughter’s face when maybe she reads these words before her wedding and then again after years of wedded bless.

    Looking forward to next installment

    1. Hi Barry

      Thank you, you make me blush. All is not what you think it is.

      I can see all the mistakes she is making with her current boyfriend and it is all done in ignorance, may be it will be good to learn form her mistakes herself. Later this will have more value.

      The ways of today are much different from the days when we were young, if it was different in those days some might have made different choices.

      My believe is living together for awhile might bring better clarity in what one needs and want.
      Thank you for your comment.

      Wishing you and your loved one a wonderful Valentines!


  6. Hi there,

    Great article and absolutely enjoyed reading it, although I tend to disagree with one point when it comes to love.

    Someones elses happiness to come before your own. Sacrifice (in any way) simply does not work, according to the law of attraction. The best way of being a great partner or taking care of your partner is to be happy yourself. The best way of taking care of No 2 is to put no 1 first.

    When you are happy, it simply radiates and is infectious and helps to make the other person happy also.

    Just my 2 cents.

    (Derek from WA returning comment)

    1. Absolutely true I agree one must be happy and a whole person in yourself before you can love a partner.
      What I meant and should have made it more clear is in the little everyday things. Attend more to his preferences than yours. If he is paying attention he will realise it.
      Women are masters in this art!
      Thank you for your comment I appreciate it and your advice is spot on.

  7. This is such a great post. I love the way it is written and I love that it is letters for your granddaughter. The content is so good and it really touched me. I was not able to check all the marks on your list which really doesn’t come as a great surprise to me just a bit of sadness as I have know this for a while. Thank you for sharing this and for sharing your wisdom.

    1. Hi Alexandra
      So sorry the info on my site made you sad, it is not meant to, but if your happiness are on the line think twice.
      I am very glad you found some info that can help you.
      A lot of peolpe go into a relationship just because……..
      Not thinking of the long term effect it has on their happiness. If we can just put the physical side apart and focus on who the person you are with, really are. Sit in solitude and visualise if you are prepared to life with his behaviour for the rest of your life and will you be happy? What is it that bothers you, decide if you can live with it, accept it never to complain about it.
      If not it is time to move on.
      Wishing you all the wisdom to make the right choice for your future hapiness.

  8. The level of detail is beautiful, it is like she will never have a ‘what if’ question! I can relate so much to your post, I met my husband in 1995 at university and he has been my first and current love. We have 2 kids, and the most important piece of advice is not taking love for granted, avoid getting too comfortable you feel you don’t need to put the effort. Respect, adoration, seduction, companionship, are all forms of love. My husband is my best friend as well, we grew together since we got married and in many ways have become similar which makes it easy in the day to day life, in traveling, and just hanging out in general. Thank you for a lovely post and for reminding us of the value of loving our partners. I will go kiss him now 😉

    1. Thank you for sharing Sahar, I appreciate it!

      So good to hear from really happy couples, so many live disconnected. To be on the same level is so important.

      I don’t believe in opposites attract. In such a relationship you have to work very hard to stay One. There has to be similarities to makes it harmonious.

      Wishing you a long, happy and fulfilled marriage.

  9. Hi Stella – I really love your post (and the overall concept of your site!). I never had a relationship this close with my grandparents, and which I did. Your words of insight around love are just so true, I will keep your tips in mind as I continue my journey to fine a life partner. I would also like to note that I read your post on money as well, and learned a lot!


    1. Hi Christen
      I am really glad you approve of my posts. Me and my granddaughter have a very open relationship, she is almost 23 and it is prescious.
      Have you read my post on Relationships?
      Enjoy your journey through the maze … and soon you will have the bright clear horizon in front of you!

  10. This is truly an inspiring post – I loved reading every part of it from top to bottom, the short term goals you say are so important and the anticipation tactics are a must. I have printed this off for my wife – just a quick not to say many thanks for this letter!

    1. Hi Michael,

      Though it is more for the women, how to treat their men on the day coming soon giving them a surprise, I am glad you enjoyed it. I would like to hear your opinion on what more to add. There might be dislikes to add but I tried to stay on the positive side.
      Thank you so much for your comment.

  11. This is such a lovely blog, manny young or old people don’t have that wise granny or just clever friend, to ask. This post about authentic happiness, I will bookmark this post, to my big daughter, a post like this could be like a goldmine for a young girl, or anyone how want to give a good advice or just want an idea of what’s are imported in a young heart:-)) 🙏 thank you:-)

    1. Hi Balthasar

      There are so many people walking around with unhappy feelings and not knowing how to fix the problem, I must say I believe it is mostly the fault of the women’s behaviour.

      Nobody ever get taught these things, and it is the most important facet of ones life. Your happiness depends on our feelings! I believe society plays a huge negative role.

      Thank you for a very motivational comment.

  12. Hi Stella,
    I really enjoy reading your posts. Last night I was telling my husband all about them and how I want to share them with my daughter and his daughters.
    They are all too young to appreciate it yet, but I will save them and keep learning from you in the meantime.
    Please keep writing these amazing letters.

    1. Thank you Carmen, that is very kind of you to say.

      It is difficult but I should think young ones will only be ripe at the age of 18 and above to realise what this is about and how to use the info.
      Glad Mom can use it in the meanwhile.
      Thank you very much for your comment I appreciate it.

  13. Everyone needs a granny like you! When you gather these posts into a book, it will be the gift I give to all of the young women in my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

    1. Thank you Theresa for your motivating words.

      I have given it a thought to publish it in book form but for now it will only be the site … for sure later.

      I really appreciate your comnent.

  14. Hi Stella!

    I realize this is for women but wow! You went into great depth and I can tell you have a lot of knowledge about love! Your website looks great and this post was very informative. Your grand daughter is very lucky to have someone like you!

    1. Hi Shawn
      Thank you for your kind words.
      It might be for women but men can benefit too … now you know what to look for in your woman, it is spelled out how she should be.
      Do you think I should try and do a letter to men too .. maybe my imaginary grandson?
      Don’t you think it is the core that should be the most important? To me it feels as if everyone is just focused on the physical and that to me is just 20 % … to look better but not to be a better person?
      I appreciate your comment and would like to know if you have something more to add? A man’s perspective is important.

  15. Hi Stella!

    Thank you so much for sharing this post. I love the concept of leaving letters to your granddaughter! My grandmother passed away in 2003 and I miss her dearly. My other grandmother lives in another country and we don’t communicate that well due to language barriers. However, that being said, it was lovely to read your letter as it gives insight to young women who are in search for the right companion in their life. Thanks again!

    1. Hi Hannah
      So sorry to hear of your loss though it is a long time ago, there is always that empty feeling.
      I believe you have a connection or you don’t there is not an in between. Me and my granddaughter have a very open relationship and it is lovely.
      Thank you for your comment I appreciate it.

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